WAYS ON HOW TO UNDERSTAND MEN THOUGHTS
Knowing how to understand men is one important thing that we, women, have to keep in mind in having relationships with our boyfriends or husbands. We sometimes think of not being understood in the relationships – but we often neglect about how to understand men thoughts in our lives.
In the end, we find our spouses or boyfriends cheating on us and we never cannot understand why. So early on, let us learn some ways on how you can understand men thoughts.
Why men are so engrossed with sex
Men’s sexual drive is indeed different from that of a woman. The hormone testosterone in the man is responsible for wanting for sex or their libido. Thus, it is but normal for men to be constantly seeking for sex. If you want to understand men and their sex drives, you might also want to understand that they have different feeling towards sex because of the testosterone pressure they feel in their bodies. In relationships, women are constantly seeking for attention, for love and pampering and men tend to be seeking for sex. Knowing these differences and understanding why these differences exist will truly help you in how to please your partner to make him happy in marriage.
Men need space for themselves
Even women need space too. We all need space in our lives. Being in a relationship or tying the knot with the man you love does not necessarily mean clinging to that man day after day. Sometimes when women are so overwhelmed and in love, we tend to love having our man around and spending time with him always, but we have to understand that sometimes men want to have their quiet time or time with friends. Not because you are married you can always tag along with your man anywhere he goes. In marriage, you can manage this by giving time for him to be by himself and schedule time for you to spend together. Although too much space for both of you can also be bad for the relationship, so make a balance.
Men need time to think
You may probably get upset when you are trying to bring up a concern and your man does not seem to respond to that immediately. Sometimes we think men are not interested in what we say and in dealing with issues that we bring to their attention. To us, it seems like he was thinking about something else, which sometimes can end up in arguments. We have to understand that most often, men want to process their problems and their thoughts to themselves, and they may want to think about it for some time. Oftentimes, men want to talk about it when they are able to come up with a solution and they do not want to talk about it piece by piece.
Men are Visual
Where women like to hear certain things and feel certain things. Men like to see them. This is part of the reason that strip clubs for women aren’t all that popular.
Most Men have Female Friends
This can be extremely difficult to accept for women with self-esteem issues but it is a part of life. There are some men who refuse to talk to females other than their partner but they are the exception rather than the rule. Men like to have someone to talk to about the deeper aspects of life than football and boobs. Being cool about a female friend will make you seem a lot more attractive.
Men are Not Mind Readers
Men tend to think differently than women and they are not yet able to read our minds. For this reason a lot of the things that are upsetting us may never cross a man’s mind in a million years. If your man is doing something to bother or upset you it is important to let him know before it builds into something you can’t control.
Never Smother a Man
Men do not take well to feeling trapped and smothered. It is good for a relationship if you spend time a part with your own friends. Giving your man the space he needs to be himself will benefit the relationship for a long time.
Men Cheat for Emotional Reasons Too
In our society we tend to think men only cheat because they are ravenous sexual beasts who can’t control themselves but excuse women for seeking emotional support in affairs. The truth is that most affairs as well as sex addictions can be linked back to some sort of emotional emptiness. Be available and understanding to the feelings of your mate. This will go a long way toward avoiding infidelity.
Men like Self Confidence
Though men tend to be the dominant figure in relationships, well-adjusted men, crave women who can hold their own. They want you to be confident in yourself outside of them.
Men Equate Clothing with Sex
Right along the lines as visual thought, men equate clothing with sex. If you are wearing pajamas and oversized shirts everyday you aren’t going to appear sexually interested to a man. If you dress in sexy form fitting clothes men are more likely to feel that you want them.
What He Does Is More Important Than What He Says
Do his words and his actions line up? This is the single most important way to understand a guy. He can tell you anything he wants but it is what he actually does that reveals what he thinks and feels. And really pay attention to the kind of action because it’s the unexpected gesture that speaks volumes. It’s lovely when a guy brings you a dozen red roses on Valentine’s Day, but a guy who always remembers how you like your hamburger…that small action says a lot about how he feels. Once I was buried with work and trying hard to get everything done before I had to take a trip out of town. The guy I was dating surprised me by thoughtfully washing my car and filling it with gas. My car was all ready to go when it was time to leave.
These are just few ways on how to understand men thoughts in your life. There are still a lot of differences between men and women that somehow we need to understand to help us build a good relationship with our man. So the next time we get upset or angry with our spouses, let us take time to put ourselves in their shoes and learn how they think about it and their behavior towards a situation. This way we will be guided on how to understand them and how to make wonderful relationships with them.